Another topic that's been hot and heavy lately is Gay Marriage.
Some are opposed to the thought of same sex marriage. And some people aren't. We need to consider divorce, abortions, adoptions, and the family unit. And how this will affect the "normal" family. And what, if anything, will happen to your family and your values.
The divorce rate
in America according to www.divorcerate.org/, for 2012 puts America at number 6 at 3.4 per 1,000 people. Or roughly 50% of first marriages fail, and 67% of second marriages fail. Hell, I've been married and divorced twice. I'm afraid
of any kind of commitment to anyone now. What if I make another mistake, what
if the woman I marry decides she needs to spend all the money we have, or if we have children can we raise them together? Everyone should know that marriage is basically a transaction. It is a
business, a bond, a contract between two people understanding that they will be
tied together for life,or a number of years to help and stand beside each other. What you do affects the other person, and what they do affects you. I didn't learn this, but I understand it now.
"Divorce rates all across the globe have been rising rapidly owing to certain problems like incompatibility between couples, infidelity issues, lack of trust and understanding, and financial pressures. It is sad to observe that the rising divorce rates across the world and see marriages breaking." (divorcerate.org)
"Divorce rates all across the globe have been rising rapidly owing to certain problems like incompatibility between couples, infidelity issues, lack of trust and understanding, and financial pressures. It is sad to observe that the rising divorce rates across the world and see marriages breaking." (divorcerate.org)
The two prominent arguments against gay marriage are: a gay
family will only have two mommy's or two daddy's and that will be detrimental
to a child. Or that marriage is a holy union between a man and a woman in the eyes of the Lord. When you get married in a church it is, "in the eyes of the Lord and congregation." When you marry elsewhere it is in the eyes of the state. It is a ceremony to let people know that you have decided you are done looking, dating, and searching for that someone to spend the rest of your life with.
The union, or marriage can be done by someone who can officiate you legally. Or, in California you can have someone pay a small fee to be a Deputy commissioner of marriage for one day. The license you pay for is signed and sent to a state department to be put away in a file. You keep you at your house, in your wallet or purse, or you can frame the paper. It is used to let people know that legally you are together.
The union, or marriage can be done by someone who can officiate you legally. Or, in California you can have someone pay a small fee to be a Deputy commissioner of marriage for one day. The license you pay for is signed and sent to a state department to be put away in a file. You keep you at your house, in your wallet or purse, or you can frame the paper. It is used to let people know that legally you are together.
Divorcing is a dissolution of the contract of marriage. It's another piece of paper that voids the marriage contract. That's right, another contract to end a contract. It goes pretty easily if the two parties decide on who gets what. Money, children, financial burdens(debt), usually gets in the way of being easy. Money is one thing, you can make more, financial burdens leave one person drowning in debt for months or years, and children get a new look at how they see the parental units.
My parents divorced when I was one. My mom remarried, they got divorced. She remarried and they have been together for close to 20 years now. I witness first hand what it was like to be that child. My brother and I looked to her for what we needed. She worked, helped with homework, provided everything we needed, and made time for us. Having to dedicate time to another human being dependent on you is a hard thing. People work, have relationships, need alone time, and sometimes need rest. Some single people can barely make time for family and friends. A single parent without the help of the other parent is pushed to the brink of going insane in a matter of minutes. My brother and I tried with our mom!
My parents divorced when I was one. My mom remarried, they got divorced. She remarried and they have been together for close to 20 years now. I witness first hand what it was like to be that child. My brother and I looked to her for what we needed. She worked, helped with homework, provided everything we needed, and made time for us. Having to dedicate time to another human being dependent on you is a hard thing. People work, have relationships, need alone time, and sometimes need rest. Some single people can barely make time for family and friends. A single parent without the help of the other parent is pushed to the brink of going insane in a matter of minutes. My brother and I tried with our mom!
What about those
children, the ones left behind by one parent, or even both parents. The
marriage has dissolved into a bickering, childish display of," look who I
am screwing" or "look how well I am doing without you." The
child, or children, who at one point had both parents constantly with them,
sees this and will think this is normal and when they do have a relationship it
falls to pieces as well. But, what if the child grew up with two people who loved
them and spent time with them? Had dinners with them, helped with homework, was
there for the big moments in life? What if? There are too many scenario's to play
out. We have children with horrible parents or living in a shelter who need a
loving family.
I'm not saying single parents can't be the only parent, its been going on for years. But having two parents does relieve some of the pressure. I don't have kids, I can only say what I have seen and heard from relatives and family. My upbringing is one thing, I was on the child side. Most single parents are the hardest working people I know.
Abortions are brought up in just about every argument these days, so I might as well bring this up. If you haven't read Freakonomics you should, www.freakonomics.com/. The author uses math and statistic to look into problems of the USA. Abortions and crime statistics are one of the area's they looked into. I'm not too concerned about the crime statistics. I am about the abortions." Nearly half of all pregnancies among American women are unintended, and 4 in 10 of these are terminated by abortion. 22% of all pregnancies end in abortion."(www.womenscenter.com). I will not tell a woman what she should do with her body. And I did not look into what the reason for the abortion was.
I'm not saying single parents can't be the only parent, its been going on for years. But having two parents does relieve some of the pressure. I don't have kids, I can only say what I have seen and heard from relatives and family. My upbringing is one thing, I was on the child side. Most single parents are the hardest working people I know.
Abortions are brought up in just about every argument these days, so I might as well bring this up. If you haven't read Freakonomics you should, www.freakonomics.com/. The author uses math and statistic to look into problems of the USA. Abortions and crime statistics are one of the area's they looked into. I'm not too concerned about the crime statistics. I am about the abortions." Nearly half of all pregnancies among American women are unintended, and 4 in 10 of these are terminated by abortion. 22% of all pregnancies end in abortion."(www.womenscenter.com). I will not tell a woman what she should do with her body. And I did not look into what the reason for the abortion was.
22% is a large number, if you consider the female population of America is almost 160 million. That is 35 million women getting an abortion! But what if half of that 35 million didn't go through with it, and gay marriage was legal? The children who are unwanted now have a chance to be adopted and put into a home with a couple who are in love and married. The child would have an advantage of having two people who cared and were honestly worried about them. We would still have a problem with bedtime, teeth brushing, and room cleanliness.
Should gay and lesbian couples be allowed to marry? I don't have to make that decision. I have plenty of gay and lesbian friends, and would honestly like to see them able to get the "benefits" of being married. The ability to use the better insurance plans, the tax advantages, the ability to make a health decision for the other person. I know they would be good parents. They would have a set of values that they teach their children. And hopefully those values are honest and good values. To treat people with respect, dignity and honesty.
If I have a family and I don't approve of gays and lesbians and what they do, I need my family to understand why. If it is because of religious views, then by all means I will teach it. But, I have to be mindful, if I teach hate and disgust it will be learned and passed on. It might not stick with them forever, but they will dispense your hate and disgust until they form a view of the world around them and what they will or will not accept.
Gays and lesbians are not threatening families, they want to have families. They want to be able to have rings and ceremonies. They want to work all day, come home, make dinner and bitch about the neighbors yard and why the grass is so high. They want to be able to call the insurance company and ask to add another person, and then pass out from the price hike. They want to be able to look at the bank statement and fight over who spent too much money on a shopping trip. Everything that goes on in a "normal" marriage.
That's about all I want to write about this. I tried to think of reasons why they should not marry, but other than church and religion. I got nothing. If you feel the need to message me or send me hate mail, thank you. I will read it and hopefully try better next time.
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Watch this Bill Burr video
Should gay and lesbian couples be allowed to marry? I don't have to make that decision. I have plenty of gay and lesbian friends, and would honestly like to see them able to get the "benefits" of being married. The ability to use the better insurance plans, the tax advantages, the ability to make a health decision for the other person. I know they would be good parents. They would have a set of values that they teach their children. And hopefully those values are honest and good values. To treat people with respect, dignity and honesty.
If I have a family and I don't approve of gays and lesbians and what they do, I need my family to understand why. If it is because of religious views, then by all means I will teach it. But, I have to be mindful, if I teach hate and disgust it will be learned and passed on. It might not stick with them forever, but they will dispense your hate and disgust until they form a view of the world around them and what they will or will not accept.
Gays and lesbians are not threatening families, they want to have families. They want to be able to have rings and ceremonies. They want to work all day, come home, make dinner and bitch about the neighbors yard and why the grass is so high. They want to be able to call the insurance company and ask to add another person, and then pass out from the price hike. They want to be able to look at the bank statement and fight over who spent too much money on a shopping trip. Everything that goes on in a "normal" marriage.
That's about all I want to write about this. I tried to think of reasons why they should not marry, but other than church and religion. I got nothing. If you feel the need to message me or send me hate mail, thank you. I will read it and hopefully try better next time.
GO!
Watch this Bill Burr video
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